? 1 、原生家庭
塔拉·韋斯特弗生長於這樣壹個家庭，父母堅定並執著於自己對整個世界的認知和判斷，並要求所有的子女服從他們的思想體系，但“教育”讓她開始和家人之間產生了觀念的差異，最終她選擇了離開。
塔拉在訪談視頻中說道：我們成長在各自的家庭，被塑造成既定的模樣，我們總以為能夠擺脫束縛，重新塑造自己。可壹旦我們回到舊的環境，又會回到死循環，或者更糟。很多在不健康的家庭環境中長大的孩子，會在外面的世界中尋找那些能與我們壹起重復死循環的人，壹輩子無法掙脫。
談到原生家庭及原生家庭對孩子的影響，讓我想到壹句話：幸運的人用童年治愈壹生，不幸的人用壹生治愈童年。可見原生家庭及童年經歷對人的影響之大。儒家思想作為數千年來中國傳統文化的主流思想，將“孝道”的信仰深深地根植在我們的文化之中。孔子對孝的解釋其壹，就是不違背父母的意願（“無違”），即家庭就是壹切，家庭是人類的開始和最後的歸宿。
但當妳意識到原生家庭已經對妳產生了負面的影響甚至是束縛與禁錮，逃離原生家庭便是另壹種選擇。它並不意味著對家人的背叛，也不意味著終止了對他們的愛，而是壹個自我塑造和自我發現的過程，是重構個人世界觀和價值觀的過程。正如塔拉所說： 妳可以愛壹個人，但仍然選擇和他說再見；妳可以每天都想念壹個人，但仍然慶幸他已不在妳的生命中。
在無數次地陷入自我懷疑之後，塔拉選擇了主動離開，選擇了與原生家庭截然不同的人生道路。Things gained and things lost.Sometimes you have to forget where you come from so that you can create a new version of yourself. She finally decided to flee as a bird to her mountain.?
而教育，便是那雙讓她能夠飛往另壹座山的翅膀。
2 、Education—— What is education? 什麽是教育？教育的意義是什麽？
1. Discover yourself- 教育是自我創造和自我發現的過程
? 1 ）區分自己和愛的人
? 在談及如果遇到小時候的自己，會和她說什麽時，塔拉回答道：什麽都不會說。因為孩子會把自己和所愛的人看成壹體，父母受到攻擊，他們會理解為自己的世界受到攻擊。貿然去和那時候的自己說父母的不對，那個孩子可能接受不了。 能夠把自己和愛的人區分開，是受教育過程中逐漸形成的能力。
拒絕別人給的定義-即使是妳愛的人
Education let me learn to reject antiquated definitions of what I was and what I was capable of doing. Definitions of me that have been given to me by other people that I'd believe in my whole life. You don't have to believe something about yourself just because someone else believes it even if it's someone that you love.
2 ）區分對自己的責任和對家庭的責任
What's the obligation you owe to your family and what's the obligation you owe to yourself
塔拉如果留在過去的環境就要接受哥哥曾經的暴力對待，不接受就要離開家庭。但她最終選擇了離開，因為教育使得她能夠區分：什麽是對家庭的責任，什麽是對自己的責任。
3 ）區分自己想要的世界和被給予的世界
當我們小的時候，無論父母的觀念或行為是對是錯，無論經歷著怎樣的童年，孩子會認為這就是世界應該有的樣子，孩子會堅信“我們這樣是對的”而“他們那樣是錯的”。因為這是我們所看到的唯壹的世界，是我們所被給予的世界。
而受教育的過程，便是壹個打破舊有的被給予的世界，重塑壹個屬於自己的新世界的過程。我們在教育中學會質疑學會反思學會取舍，留下繼續堅持的東西，拋棄不再認同的東西。
Education is the process of figuring out?what bits of that world was built for them in a childhood are they going to hold on to and what bits are they going to let go of. Education is a whole process of working out who you are from who you were, the identity you choose from the ones other people give to you.
4 ）區分自己的認知和被所在社群給予的認知
We live in the same world, but we are all shaped in different ways. Stories that make it to us is largely created for us by other people. We go to school, and we are told this is what history is, this is what happened, this is the story we care about. We go to the internet, and we see news they want to show us, we are told things they want us to believe. And day by day, our mindset and worldview are shaped by the community we live in.?
Everybody learns a specific version of everything, and the trick is to try to step outside of that. Step outside of our comfort zone, recognize which community we are part of. It is really only when we start to read things that is a little bit outside of that box. It is education that broaden our horizons and give us various angles to see the world. It is Education help us distinguishes truth from propaganda.
2.Discover others:? 教育讓我們保持謙遜，和不同觀點的人交流
? 1 ）保持謙遜 ?
人的認知分為四個層次:
不知不知:不知道自己不知道；
知己不知:知道自己不知道；
知己自知:知道自己知道；
不知己知，不知道自己知道。
The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.?正如古希臘著名哲學家芝諾所說，人的知識就好比壹個圓圈，圓圈裏面是已知的，圓圈外面是未知的。妳知道得越多，圓圈也越大，妳不知道的也就越多。
因此，教育不是傲慢的來源，教育不是讓他人屈服的武器。 相反，教育使人的認知層次得以提升，認知邊界得以拓寬，使人變得更加謙遜與寬容。
If you are trying to cross someone’s reality, trying to get someone’s perspective, humility is the secret to most things. Most things having to do with respect and education. A good education let us be exposed to more ideas and be exposed to a wider world. Education should never be a stick that we use to beat other people into submission. Education should never be a source of arrogance. Education should never be a weapon that we alien people with it.?
Instead, education should always be something that make us want to learn more about others and not just tell people more things. Education is more about enquiry and not just about knowing, not just about already having all the answers. Education is a wonderful and exciting experience of exploring knowledge that we should share with more people.?
教育不是讓我們更加確定，而是讓我們更加懷疑。
教育應該是思想的拓展，同理心的深化，視野的開闊。它不應該使我們的偏見變得更頑固。如果人們受過教育，他們應該變得不那麽確定，而不是更確定。他們應該多聽，少說。他們應該對差異滿懷激情，熱愛那些不同於他們的想法。教育幫助人們更深入地傾聽彼此。
2 ）和有不同觀點的人交流
People always want to characterize people. We take a really simplistic view of someone and we think we know what that is. But the fact is everybody is different, each situation is different. We all come from different families, be raised in different ways, have been through different things. That’s why it’s hard to understand a person completely.
Education should be radical. We should never define people based on what we know. We should read things we would not normally read. We should talk to people we are nervous to talk to, with people who we perceived to be different from us, with people who we disagree with.?
That's something we should always keep in mind.
3.Discover the world:? 教育給了我們視角(perspective)，和可以改變的信念
視角：教育意味著獲得不同的視角，理解不同的人、經歷和歷史。教育讓人們有機會從自己的思維範式裏跳出來進入他人的思維。這些短暫的思維旅程讓我們認識到自己的人生只是眾多可能性中的壹種，世界上還有很多其他可能性。
信念：聖經裏有壹句話：信念是希望之事的實質，是未見之事的證據。 Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. ?而教育給人以信念。信念的可貴之處正在於，它讓人們相信存在更好的世界，不同的世界，相信我們可以過上與以往不同的另壹種生活，體會妳從未體會過的愛。
但要舍棄過往，想象未來，則需要信念和教育相結合。只有二者相輔相成，才能遇見未知的人生，期待不壹樣的改變。
教育可以讓我們脫離狹隘昏暗的現實，並向我們展示更明亮的世界。教育讓我們可以想象那些沒有直接經歷過的人生，打破舊有模式嘗試新的生活。教育讓我們相信那些我們沒有親身經歷過的愛。教育讓我們努力看到生活中可能的壹面，而不只是現在眼前的樣子。
In the End
原生家庭給予了我們生命，原生家庭幫助我們建立了與這個世界最初的聯結。但當我們長大，我們的思想開始與父母的思想產生碰撞，我們的原有認知受到沖擊和質疑，我們仿徨、探尋、摸索、修正、自我懷疑…而受教育，便是給予我們信念，幫助我們突破思維邊界的過程。
Education gives us courageous to fight against the world.?
Education lets us understand ourselves more, understand others more, and understand the world more.?
Education leads us to explore new answers and build a new world.?
Education is the process of self-creation and self-discovery.
無論妳在生活中遇到任何問題或困惑，堅持讀書、思考、受教育，妳必將被引領著尋找到新的答案，抵達新的世界；永遠訴諸於父母，便只會永遠被局限在原生家庭及父母的認知邊界中。We will never deny or forget our love to them, but we should build our own world and write our own stories.?Just fly as a bird to your mountain.?